Welcome Back, Demi Lovato. And Thank You.

The following post is not meant to be a retaliation to any one person. It is not meant to be in the defense of another person either. It is simply me. My thoughts, my opinions, my feelings, my blog. I am not saying any of it to please anyone but myself. I do not intend for it to be an argument against anyone else's thoughts, opinions or the like. This is my blog, my property, and my voice. And my chance to have my voice be heard. You may disagree with every word. You may think I'm an idiot, with no idea at all what I'm talking about. Or you may agree with every word. You may have your eyes opened to something you have never seen before. You can judge, you can ridicule, you can debate everything I say.

I only ask that the one thing you unfailingly faithfully do, is read. Once you've read, you can say anything you'd like, to anyone you'd like, and about anything you'd like. I know you don't need my permission for any of it, but I give it to you nevertheless. I also can not force you to do the one thing that I ask. But I'm hoping you will, nevertheless.


First off, I personally, very much like the song Skyscraper, and the music video. To those people who say the video is boring because it's just like A Year Without Rain, and then end their comments by saying they love Selena Gomez; you are entitled to your opinion. I'm also a fan of Selena's. What I don't understand is how you can like one of these videos, say the other is the same, and then dislike it. I get that the video does not follow the song's lyrics, but I believe that a music video is about what a particular song means to that artist, not what the lyrics are saying, especially in a song with such a large amount of symbolism as this one.

I am very supportive of Demi's comeback. Not because I'm a fan, and not because I feel sorry for her. I am supportive of what it- in it's most basic form- is. It is a person who has reached their breaking point, recognized it, and set out to seek assistance. And it is that person emerging anew, triumphing over what was once impossible to face. Demi is not the only one who has suffered, or triumphed. I can sympathize with those who don't think that she deserves to be praised for making it through something that so many others experience as well, but without such recognition. I don't think it is justified to praise her above others in the same situation. I do understand why it has happened though.

Those others are the silent sufferers, they accomplish the same feat, but get none of the renown. With that in mind though, I ask this:
What if Demi had kept silent?

Of course she wouldn't have gotten the attention that many feel she didn't deserve, but then neither would her battle. I don't mean her personal battle, but rather what she fought against. The pressure to be perfect, to be something you aren't because what you are, couldn't be good enough. Is this not the same thing all those others battle against?

If no one had known about Demi, no one would have known her battle, or her enemy. But people did know about Demi, and as a result, her -and so many others'- enemy. Now ,because of people like Demi- who see their chance to be heard and seize it in the name of a mutual enemy and a common goal- the world, or at least most of it, knows their enemy as well.

No, Demi doesn't deserve special praise for defeating this common enemy, but she does deserve recognition for bringing that enemy to the attention of others, for the sake of those who can't.

Lastly; some people say that Demi ruined her career by entering in to rehab.
I for one, would much rather see someone, in the same situation, lose her singing ability altogether, rather than see the alternative. Rehab has been portrayed so falsely in recent years that many people seem to be unaware or ignorant of it's purpose.

Rehab is not a place (well, it's not meant to be) where a celebrity goes to get attention. It's not meant to be a place that people go to for pity or sympathy when they feel they want more people to like them. The purpose of the rehab that celebrities attend, is the same as the rehab any other person in the world would go to. It is a place to go when you lose the ability to deal with things that are happening to you. When the consequences of the path you are currently traveling are both too frightening, and seemingly unescapable. When you feel like you are on an edge, so close to falling in to things that are seemingly, all of a sudden, completely out of your control, rehab is there to pull you back from that edge, slowly, cautiously -so that they you won't be startled and lose your balance again. If Demi and others had not gone to rehab, by their will, or someone else's, they could have faced much worse- and some have.

Take for instance, Demi, who was cutting and starving herself. The path she was on was already dangerous, but further down, perhaps out of her sight, were even worse things.
What would be next, once cutting no longer took away the pain? For some the answer is death -by suicide yes, but also by things like drugs, or self-mutilation gone badly wrong. And who knows how long a body can take starvation or any other suffering, before it gives up and shuts down entirely?
Here's the answer: No one.
No one can know the limit for sure until it's too late for the knowlege to make any difference. The problem with pushing something until it breaks is that you can only know when to stop, once it's already broken.

So I don't care if Demi completely ruined her career by entering rehab.
I'm glad she did, because I am much more pleased to be writing this about someone who is still here, and still using her voice, not to further her career -which she has been lucky enough to still possess- but to increase the chances for those whose voices we can not hear- and if not for Demi and others like her- we might never hear.

Yes I am much happier to write about that person than to write about one who didn't have the resolve, or the courage to stand up and to call her enemy out and face it.

And for that I say; Thank You, Demi Lovato.